Jurnal Ilmiah Peuradeun
International Multidisciplinary Journal
Jurnal Ilmiah Peuradeun
International Multidisciplinary Journal
THE RITUAL OF MARRIAGE
(An Ethnographic Study in West Labuhan Haji-South Ace.
Abdul Manan1 Abstract This article explores the mating rituals in Labuhan Haji West - South Aceh.
The goal is to express the values and profound ideas expressed by Aneuk Jamee society before and after the wedding ceremony itself.
This research is a field of research and data collection through observation with utmost care and in-depth interviews of key informants.
The research concludes that men are more active than women.
Therefore man is personified as "beetle" while women personified as AuflowersAy, passively waiting for Authe coming beetleAy.
Men planned marriage but women have the right to agree or not.
Overall this ritual aims to obtain offspring.
In regard to Islamic law represented by the priest, custom by Keuchik .
illage hea.
, and the Old Village by Tuwo Ampek.
But the overall picture of this ritual is the authority in carrying out the marital relationship is not derived from the father's brothers next door called the legal guardian of the brothers but next to the mother who called the niniak mamak.
Aneuk Jamee ____________ Abdul Manan, is a social anthropology lecturer of Adab Faculty of The State Islamic University (UIN) Ar-Raniry Banda Aceh.
He finished his BA (S.
program in English Langage Education at IAIN Ar-Raniry in 1997.
MSc program in Educational and System Design at Twente University.
Enschede-Holland in 2001.
MA program in Islamic Studies at Leiden University.
LeidenAe Holland in 2003, and Ph.
D program in Ethnology at Mynster University.
Mynster-Germany in 2010.
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The Terms of Marriage.
Marriage Ceremonies And Rites After Marriage Introduction In the Aneuk Jamee society, traditional marriages continue to be seen as ideal.
Marriages occur among cousins and among those who occupy a similar socio-economic status.
Marriage of a man with his multilateral cross cousin is preferred by most parents although patrilateral cross cousin marriage is also permissible.
This is evident from the following expression.
AuIt is better to shelter oneAs own salt than other peopleAs saltAy.
2 This expression beautifully illustrates that it is advantageous to marry kin to keep property within the kin because their customs are known.
3 In the past, marriage within the village was preferable, the reasons being similar to those given for marrying kin (See also Jayawardena: 1977 and Muntasir: 2.
Snouck Hurgronje I .
wrote that a man wishing to marry outside the village required the permission of the village head, and this was not readily Today this permission is freely given.
Parents in Aneuk Jamee society wish their son to marry a woman who is not only attractive in appearance but is also well behaved, as illustrated in ____________ Jamee.
AuDari pado manaduah garom urang labiah baiak manaduh garom sandiriAy.
But some people say that it is foolish to do so because of the rupture it could cause if the marriage breaks up.
JIP-International Multidisciplinary Journal The Ritual of Marriage Abdul Manan the following expression.
AuParents want a wife who is like a AflowerA for their son and a comfort for the parents-in-lawAy.
4 Today, however, marriages do not have to be endogamous.
Modernization has paved the way to a rather flexible social structure that has inevitably brought about changes in the pattern of male-female interactions.
Men and women find themselves interacting in different communities and with different people.
As a result, the number of non-kin marriages has increased.
Parents also prefer their daughters to marry a man working for the government as a civil servant, he should be affluent, or have honorable descendants as they can sustain the future life as well as improve the social status of their daughters.
This was even more evident during the colonial period.
Those who had a superior social status would not allow their daughters to marry men of an inferior one.
They could not afford the children of aristocratic descent losing that status.
In contrast, those of a lower social status would like to marry their daughters off to those of a higher status so that they could improve their social status as well.
Marriage restrictions are formulated in accordance with the teachings of Islam.
Hence it is forbidden for a man to marry his mother and her sistersA father and his sisters, daughterAs sisters, sisterAs daughters.
AsistersA by nursing and stepsisters.
These relations are called muhrim.
It is also forbidden to marry someone of a different belief unless he or she converts to Islam.
I attempt in this ethnographic research5 to convey the in depth-ideas and values expressed by the Aneuk Jamee6 Muslims in performing one of life cycle rituals, that is the ritual of marriage tradition in West Labuhan Haji-South Acyh.
In addition, this ethnographic research also describes the commonly practiced rituals before and after the traditional wedding ceremony itself.
Marriage ritual The traditional marriage procedure is divided into four main phases, namely risiak, bisiak, dohai, and menendei.
____________
Jamee.
AuNan kajadi disunting kan anaknyo, nan ka jadi pamaenan ka uwaik ayahnyoAy.
This ethnographic research was conducted in the village of Blangporoh in West Labuahan Haji-South Aceh during three months in 2013.
I thank Prof.
Platenkamp.
Prof.
Sprenger and Ms.
Mina Bahar.
MA of Mynster University-Germany for their critical comments on the early version of this text.
Aneuk Jamee Au the guest of the childrenAy is one of the tribes who live in the Western and Southern part of Aceh Province.
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collects information (Acehnese coh rho.
about the prospective bride (Jam calon marapulai pausi/nak dar.
In this process, a respected and wise man belonging to the groomAs matrilineal kin (Jamee niniak mama.
who is experienced in representing the prospective groomAs side called talangkai (Acehnese seulangky.
is sent to seek information regarding the prospective brideAs side.
This mission is secret.
The representative pretends as a guest and does not show any particular intention.
His task is to obtain information from the parents and their closest kin.
This mission is said to be Aulike looking for lice on the head where one combs the hair, going down each hair strand until the lice are found and removedAy.
Afterwards the talangkai reports the results to the parents of the prospective groom.
After a prolonged thoughtful discussion between parents and their son in a Ameeting of the family membersA (Jamee rapat bili.
, the parents then go and report the name of the prospective bride to a Aclever personA (Indonesian orang pinta.
who is consulted about the character, habits and behaviour of the girl by looking at the AhabitsA of nature and animals (Indonesian kebiasaan alam dan binatan.
and predictions from the stars (Jamee mancaliak paraj.
and the precise auspicious date and month (Jamee mancaliak langka.
for the engagement, marrying and holding the khanduri for both candidates.
The aim of mancaliak parajo is more or less the same as predicting the fate of both spouses after their wedding.
One of the most important things in mancaliak parajo is the name of both candidates.
The names of the man and the woman are also given an animalAs name based on the last syllable .
of their names in Arabic.
For example.
the name of a person is Mukhtar.
The word ta (Arabic A )Ais taken.
The word ta ( A )Ameans frog (Indonesian kodo.
A frog has a bad character because it is fond of sticking out its tongue to catch insects and it likes kicking things with its legs.
The following formulas are used in mancaliak parajo: A( Aali.
= moon.
AA .
= sun.
AA, .
= frog.
A( Aji.
= plant/wood.
A(Ah.
= hen.
A( Akh.
= duck.
AA .
= buffalo.
A( Aza.
= cow.
A( Ar.
=goat.
A( Az.
= cow.
A( Asi.
= scorpion.
AA .
= centipede.
A( AAsh.
= shrimp.
A( Adh.
=monkey.
AA( Aai.
=turtle.
AA .
= goat.
A( AAf.
=grasshopper.
A( CAkh.
= elephant.
A( EAk.
=deer.
A( EAla.
JIP-International Multidisciplinary Journal The Ritual of Marriage Abdul Manan =snake.
A( IAmi.
= peacock.
A( IAnu.
= eagle.
A( OAwa.
= river.
A( Ah.
= hen, and A( OAy.
= horse.
It is said that this stipulation is very important especially in choosing a marriage partner.
When the names prove incompatible, it is believed that there will later be a bad influence on the household.
For example.
Munawar .
nding with the vowel A( OAwa.
) who has a river character (Jamee parajo sunga.
marries Lestari .
nding the vowel ra ( A ))Awho has goat character (Jamee parajo kambian.
This marriage will not last long as this couple has contrasting and conflicting characters.
If Munawar who has river character marries Masyitah who has a frog character (Jamee parajo kodo.
, they will be happy because both of them have similar characters.
It is like if Muntadhar who has a monkey character (Jam parajo monye.
gets married to Khatijah who has plant/wood characters (Jamee parajo kay.
They are said to be compatible.
Thus, the name is very important to determine the parajo.
After knowing the parajo, the human characters and the destiny of the future household of the prospective spouse can be predicted.
Therefore, if the parents find that their prospective son/daughter does not have compatible characters after uniting both prospective names, they look for alternatives, for instance, changing one of the prospective spouseAs names, especially the last vowel of the name.
Names are believed to have a direct relation to character and fortune.
In choosing a name, the chooser must know the science of names.
The name is said to be like a prayer (Indonesian doA.
Any time a person is addressed by his or her name it means that people give a gift to AllAh so that a good name must be chosen.
It is said that after a prospective bride or groom's name is changed, the parents often offer glutinous rice to the men presiding over the ritual so that the name will Asit wellA with the bride or groom throughout their life.
It is not surprising that the parents in the village often change their daughterAs name or their sonAs name in order to render it suitable for the prediction of the parajo at the marriage contract.
Modernists, however, do not agree that predicting a name determines the destiny of the future household of the prospective spouse.
They contend.
Authe future destiny is the secret of AllAh.
If it is predicted, the human beings thus have preceded His secrecy.
It thus deviates from Islamic teachingAy.
The imAm said that predicting the unseen such as predicting a mate, livelihood (Indonesian rezek.
, and death and the Day of ____________ For the Aneuk Jamee Cosmolgy, see Manan .
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AuSay, no one in the sky and on earth knows the unseen except AllAh, and they do not perceive when they will be resurrectedAy(QS 27:.
Added to this are fortune-tellers, witches, healers, astrologers, who all belong to one AgroupA.
They are the people who admit knowing unseen things (Indonesian perkara gai.
, their acts are clearly unlawful and this makes them unbelievers.
Should the names be considered compatible, the next phase in looking for the sonAs marriage partner can begin.
Bisiak Bisiak (Indon berbisik, to AwhisperA) means sending a representative from the groom's side (Jamee talangka.
to deliver news confidentially and quietly to the prospective parents of the brideAs side.
Here the representative plays a vital role in ensuring that the proposal is welcomed.
Once he arrives at the house of the prospective bride, he explains the purposes of his presence and asks the parents graciously for their daughter's hand in marriage.
If the parents do not accept the proposed marriage, they should refuse with a polite excuse, e.
, their daughter still wants to continue going to school or at the moment their daughter is not thinking about the marriage.
The process is kept confidential as there is a possibility that the prospective brideAs side may refuse the proposal.
An expression articulates this in the following way.
AuWhispering in the water, walking in the earth, an ant does not knowAy.
If the prospective brideAs parents agree to the proposal, they still need the consent of the other family members.
As such, they would ask for some time to put the proposal before their niniak mamak.
The prospective brideAs parents say diplomatically to the representative from the groom's side.
AuIt is right that she is our daughter, but she is somebodyAs nieceAy.
9 A meeting is then held with her matrilineal relatives.
While waiting for this meeting, the representative from prospective brideAs side is sent to the prospective groomAs side to investigate the characters of the prospective groom, examining whether he can become a sonin-law in their family.
After detailed information about the prospective groom is ____________ Jamee.
AuBabisiak dalom ayie, bajalan dalom tanah, samuik saikue indak tauAy.
Jamee.
AuIni betul anak kami, tapi kemenakan di urangAy.
JIP-International Multidisciplinary Journal The Ritual of Marriage Abdul Manan obtained by the representative of the prospective bride, the family of the prospective brideAs side says to the representative of the prospective groomAs side.
AuThe door is now open and the prospective groomAs side can come to our houseAy.
When the proposal is accepted, the next phase in looking for the sonAs marriage partner is then continued.
Dohai Dohai is a phase in which the parents of the groom and bride begin to make their consultations public.
Although the parents have a more dominant role in deciding their childrenAs marriage, the proposed married needs to be discussed with the entire family.
The parents of the prospective groom invite niniak mamak .
he relatives on the motherAs sid.
and wali hukum .
he relatives on the fatherAs sid.
to attend a family gathering called rapat niniak mamak to let them know that risiak and bisiak have been performed.
Before the meeting, the parents of the prospective groom ask one of the niniak mamak to lead the family meeting.
In the meeting he says:
We are here on behalf on the niniak mamak to convey that we will soon search for our sisterAs son's (ZS), nameA, marriage partner.
Everything has been initiated by the talangkai of the family.
Our party has tried to clear any branches blocking the way and to remove the intertwined 10 Tonight we look for an agreement to take a sign (Jamee maantyk tand.
to the prospective bride.
For this reason, we need to send an official representative of our families to the prospective brideAs His task is to ask the prospective brideAs side how much dowry (Jamee jinam.
should be made, asking the prospective brideAs side if they are willing to accept the prospective groomAs side to take the AmarkA (Jamee maantyk tand.
, and asking for other requirements of the engagement that must be presented by the prospective groom on the day of the engagement.
Through all stages of the ritual the wali hukum, the patrilateral kin are present and consulted the essential role in deciding and performing the ritual is in the hands of the niniak mamak, the matrilateral kin.
This is not as elaborate as the niniak mamak, wali hukum and the other family members accept the ____________ Jamee.
AuPihak kami alah berusaha mengabuang kayu yang melintang, dan maratyh aka yang bajalinAy.
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he brid.
like the marriage, then we also like itAy.
11 Having reached an agreement, the parents of the prospective groom will soon let the talangkai know about it and proceed to the next phase, menendai.
Menendei Menendei is the ceremony of engagement.
In the past, it was held prior to announcing the intended marriage but now it is held on the same day.
Like the Acyhnese adat, the marriage proposal is always made by the manAs family, never by the womanAs as the expression says.
AuThe well never seeks the bucketAy (Acehnese hantom mon mita tim.
In the Aneuk Jamee adat, there is no term for nikah bajapuit Aupicking marriageAy as found in Minangkabau.
West Sumatra, in which the marriage proposal is made by the womanAs family.
The group of menendei consisting of niniak mamak, wali hukum, imAm, keuchik .
illage leade.
, and tuwo ampyk .
illage elder.
is sent by the groomAs family.
They take betel leaves with them filling a tray of leaves (Indonesian cerana siri.
called bungkusan adat Athe packing of traditionA and a gold ring called tando AmarkA as a part of bride price.
In the bride's house, they are warmly welcomed by old respected people and after a while the menendei ceremony begins.
Afterwards, the groups are served with glutinous rice (Jamee nasi sipului.
Soon after the manendei ceremony is performed, the ceremony of making a Asign of engagementA (Jamee maulu tand.
to the prospective brideAs side takes place, showing that a girl is now traditionally AboundA to a young man: AuTrees are bound by their roots, promises are bound by signsAy.
12 The tando is presented along with a tray containing betel leaves and is considered a part of the bride price to be completed at the marriage contract ritual.
There are two kinds of tando known in the Aneuk Jamee speaking areas in South Acyh.
tando dohai and tando suruk.
This classification refers to the magnitude of the wedding ceremonies.
If it is an extensive wedding ceremony, tando dohai is presented to the brideAs side and it should be held during the day.
If the wedding ceremony is a simple one, it is sufficient for the groomAs side to ____________ Jamee.
AuKok umak ayahnyo dan nan punyo badan alah suka, kamipun suka puloAy.
Jamee.
AuMaikyk kayu samo aka, maikyk janji samo tandoAy.
JIP-International Multidisciplinary Journal The Ritual of Marriage Abdul Manan merely present tando suruk.
Tando suruk is usually held in the evening and no invitations are extended to the surrounding people.
There are only several of the groomAs kinsmen present without the presence of traditional leaders.
tray of betel leaves (Jamee jamba siri.
is not used.
The latter normally happens when the bride is a young girl or still attends school or because their parents do not have ample financial means for a huge wedding ceremony.
People recognize the type of wedding ceremony from these two tando .
ee in Sulaiman: 1978:23, see also Sufi .
Usman .
and Abdullah .
The tando is performed when all requirements have been agreed upon by both sides, such as the sum of the bride price and the duration of Prior to the engagement ceremony, close relatives, neighbors, the keuchik, the teungku imAm, the khatib .
and tuwo ampyk .
illage elder.
are invited to the house of the groom at night to discuss who will go to the house of the bride on the day of engagement on behalf of the groomAs side.
That night all requirements for the engagement are prepared by several village These include making a metal traditional holder to place the betel leaves on called cerano adat Authe tray of adatAy and decorating a copper silver bowl with an ornamental piece of cloth to place gold in called bungkusan adat Authe wrapping of adatAy.
These will be brought to the brideAs house the following day as a mark of engagement (Indonesian tanda pertunanga.
The people who bring the bungkusan adat consist of the groomAs matrilineal relatives, patrilineal relatives, tuwo ampyk, a young man who holds a cerano adat and a wise man who is versed in diplomacy and retoric .
sually the talangka.
Once they arrive at the brideAs house, they are warmly welcomed by the bride's family, the village and religious leaders.
The bungkusan adat containing a part of the agreed bride price and the cerano adat are handed over to the waiting group and religious leaders on the brideAs side.
During light conversation, they are served with coffee, tea and cakes.
The official menendei ceremony then begins.
13 The speaker for the groomAs side sits facing the ____________ At this ceremony, the groom is not required to be present.
However, in nikah gantung marriage in which the sexual intercourse is suspended because the bride is still young in age, the groom has to be present because the marriage contract ceremony .
jab qabul /akad nika.
is also held on that day.
trusted religious leader usually stands for the parents of the bride to utter the oath of marriage.
To affirm that the marriage is valid by law, however, they have to get a government official agreement (Indonesian kantor urusan agama kecamata.
prior to the marriage contract ceremony.
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He greets the audience and delivers a short speech, then offers a traditional poem (Indonesian pantu.
which is soon answered by a representative of the bride.
After reciting the poem, the groomAs side is served glutinous rice.
Having handed over a part of the bride price, the bride has been officially AtiedA to the prospective groomAs side.
A prayer is then uttered by the imAm invoking AllAhAs blessings of the agreement between the bride as a AflowerA (Jamee bungo/Acehnese bungon.
and the groom as a AbeetleA (Jamee/Acehnese/Indonesian kumban.
They are now officially engaged and any inappropriate behavior (Indonesian penyelewenga.
will from now on be fined.
In that case, the brideAs side must return the gift (Jamee tand.
and pay compensation equal to the gift they received during the engagement ceremony, whereas the groomAs side will lose the right to The bride price is legally owned by the bride, as this ritual is witnessed by the adat elders, family, and matrilateral and patrilateal kin of both sides.
During the engagement period, the prospective groom may not walk or travel with his prospective wife.
If there is a life-cycle ritual (Acehnese buet hudy.
or a mortuary ritual (Acehnese buet maty.
at the prospective groomAs house,14 the prospective bride may not be picked up by the prospective groom or come alone to the prospective groomAs house except when there is a representative old woman accompanying her.
Prerequisites for marriage Prerequisites for marriage are a collection of norms regulating a matrimonial process which consists of certain procedures to be completed before the marriage contract ritual is undertaken to ensure that the marriage is lawful and valid.
Among the prerequisites are physical and mental sound conditions.
These prerequisites are in line with Islamic teaching because the populations of the Aneuk Jamee in West Labuhan Haji district are Muslim.
As to the age, they do not particularly specify the minimum age requirement at which one is ____________ Life-cycle rituals (Acehnese buet hudy.
include the ritual of birth, circumcision, marriage etc.
The mortuary ritual (Acehnese buet maty.
is from one until seven days after the death of someone, the khanduri on day fourteen and on day forty, and on the hundredth day after death .
or the mortuary ritual in the Aneuk Jamee Society, see Manan .
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It is common practice that men are seen as eligible to marry when they have adequately acquired basic skills to engage in certain activities to support the family, such as having a knowledge of cultivation-related activities and fishery.
Women, on the other hand, are eligible to wed once they have had their first menstruation and know how to cook.
Older people say that the minimum age of marriage is legally after a girlAs first menstruation .
round 12 years ol.
and after a boyAs first ejaculation during sleep .
round 15 years ol.
Nowadays, however, people ignore this requirement.
Men are mostly inclined to wed between 18 and 30 while women wed between 15 to 25 years old.
Furthermore mental and physical healths are necessary.
They should not suffer from infectious diseases such as leprosy, tuberculosis and be sexually healthy.
The bride price (Jamee jinamu.
Acehnese jiname.
15 is assessed in measures of gold, due to the fluctuating value of money, and mostly presented in the form of a golden ring, bracelet or necklace.
The bride price for the bride is jointly decided by the brideAs family in a meeting with their matrilineal kin (Jamee rapat niniak mama.
The amount of the bride price takes into account the current social and economic status of the brideAs parents, which is well expressed in the saying.
AuIf the bride price is high, what can be received in exchangeAy (Jamee kalo jinamu tinggi, apo yang bisa dipulangka.
The amount is negotiable once the families of the groom and the bride have reached an initial agreement about the marriage.
Usually the amount expected for a bride is equivalent to that which was paid for her mother.
The amount of the bride price can also serve a sign of refusal to a proposal of marriage.
When the bride price demanded is unreasonably expensive, it conveys that the intended bride is reluctant to engage in the marriage.
Wedding ceremony When the day of the wedding ceremony approaches, the niniak mamak and wali hukum of both sides call a meeting to set the date.
The ____________ A word which.
Snouck Hurgronje observed, derived from the word jamee, meaning guest, is based upon the idea of a husband as a guest in the house of his wife (Snouck Hurgronje I 1906: .
In other words.
AuIf the bride price is high, what has to be made to return homeAy.
If we ask a high bride price, what must we give in return? It is not wise to ask a high bride price because if it is too high, we have to give more back.
This poem can be understood as a warning against asking for a too high bride price.
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The marriage ritual may be performed in SyaAban .
Augus.
, the myAlst lunar months.
Rabiul Awwal .
Marc.
Rabiul Akhir .
e Apri.
or Jumadil Awwal .
Ma.
but never in the Safar .
Februar.
lunar month as this is the month to Auward off calamitiesAy days.
The ceremony is often held in the period of time when the moon is ascending .
he first day until the fifteenth day of a mont.
in SyaAban or MyAlst lunar month.
Two weeks before the wedding day, both sides are busy with A meeting of niniak mamak is conducted in her house to discuss thoroughly any problems relating to the preparation work.
The meeting is led by respected male members of niniak mamak.
They specify any kind of help which might be provided by niniak mamak and wali hukum to support the wedding celebration.
The meeting provides a well planned traditional agenda and indicates the processions for the wedding ceremony.
A week before the wedding day, another meeting is held at night at the brideAs house.
This is a village level meeting called pakat Unlike the pakat niniak mamakAs meeting which is only attended by close family, pakat ramiAs meeting is not only attended by close family and neighbors but also open to the entire population of the To this meeting, the male participants bring sugar .
half or one kilogra.
or a little money while the women bring cakes to the family of the bride to show a sense of brotherhood and togetherness.
At this time the meeting is led by the keuchik on the behalf of the bride or groomAs family.
The keuchik informs those attending about the wedding day, about sending the groom to the brideAs house called maantra marapulai as well as sending the bride to the groomAs house called menjelang.
17 This is expressed in the saying.
AuWhen the moon appears, when the promise should be fulfilled, the debtor is waiting for repayment and the debtor is ready to payAy.
18 The representative of ____________ In Susoh, another district of Aneuk Jamee speaking area, it is called pengaling suruit (Sulaiman 1978: .
Jamee.
AuKok bulyn alah nampak, kok janjipun alah pulo sampai, nan bapiutang alah manunggu nan berutangpun nandak mambayieAy.
JIP-International Multidisciplinary Journal The Ritual of Marriage Abdul Manan the brideAs family asks the people to attend the ritual and to make it successful by saying.
AuIf vegetables have a skin, we peel them together.
If they are still raw, we cook them together.
After being cooked, we eat them togetherAy.
19 After this, the workers are served Alight foodA (Indonesian makan ringa.
such as cakes with coffee and tea.
The brideAs family then asks the traditional leaders for their authorization to conduct the ritual.
Then an informal meeting between the brideAs family and the traditional as well as religious leaders is held.
This meeting is called rapat menduduekkan keuchik meminta adat dan tampyk Auseating the village head, asking about adat and placeAy.
Having been granted the authorization, the brideAs family requests the traditional leaders as well as the head of the village youth to set up a committee that is responsible for performing the ceremony.
The preparation continues at the brideAs house.
The brideAs family cleans and repairs the house to honors the coming of the groom.
This expresses the respect of the brideAs family towards the groom, as well as the last responsibility of a father toward his daughter since after marriage a woman obtains legal possession of the house, in accordance to the matrilocal marriage tradition of Aneuk Jamee.
Neighbours and kinsmen also come to the brideAs house to fix and prepare things needed for the wedding reception.
Three days proceeding the wedding day, the ends of the bride's hair (Indonesian rambut keci.
are cut (Acehnese meanda.
and her nails are cut.
Bainai .
, a traditional process of dyeing the hands and the feet of the bride with heena is conducted in the evening.
The bride wears a traditional dress and an old woman sprays the water of tepsng taweu20 onto the brideAs hands and forehead and scatters husked (Jamee bary.
and unhusked rice (Jamee pad.
over her from right to left.
The bride is then asked to lay down on the mattress.
Heena paste is applied in patterns on the palm, back of her hands, the fingernails and tips of her fingers as well as on the bride's feet.
After a few hours elaborated patterns in red appear.
In the past, the groom was also dyed with heena, but nowadays this practice has been mostly abandoned.
____________
Jamee.
AuKok nan bakuliek samo-samo dikubak, kok nan mantah samo samo dimasak alah masak samo- samo pula disantapAy.
The water of teupsng taweu consists of water and the rice flour.
Sometimes the Acyhnese say tasteless flour (Acehnese teupong tabe.
instead of tepusng taweu.
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Others cook the rice.
They chop onions, garlic, ginger and other ingredients.
This work is called ricieh-maricieh.
Another group of women collect utensils from the neighbors and make sure that the plates, cups, glasses, forks and spoons and other utensils are clean and ready for the wedding day.
Men do the heavy work.
Some men set up the tents and arrange the tables and chairs for the guests.
Others take firewood and make a fireplace.
others collect jackfruit (Ach boh pana.
and the hearts of the banana palms (Acehnese haty bak pisan.
for vegetables.
Some fish in the river or at sea, others cut firewood and erect a hall for the audience called balairong.
At the same time, various traditional narratives are recited such as kaba .
aba ungyh-bambam and kaba dangderi.
, rantak kudo and badampieng to entertain the men and women who are occupied with their respective tasks.
In certain places, modern music performances such as orchestras and gambus are also shown (See in Sulaiman, 1978:.
The duration and extent of the performances depends on the social and economic status of the bride or groomAs family.
In the early morning of the day preceding the wedding, the bride performs the ritual of mandi balimau Aubathing with citrus fruitAy to make her body fragrant.
It is done by mixing several kinds of fragrant flowers .
ncluding the leaves of civet catAs pandanu.
in water to be used as a shampoo.
addition, she drinks boiled water from various kinds of leaves and plants that make her breath fragrant as well.
During the day, the khanduri takes place in the brideAs house.
In the early morning, two goats are slaughtered and the meat has been mixed with the hearts of banana trunks (Jamee hati batang Men who are unable to help with the physical work present gifts such as fish, chicken, rice, money and some other goods while women present cloth gifts or cosmetic products to the brideAs house.
The male guests give money placed in an envelope and the female guests bring gifts that have been wrapped in colorful paper containing clothes called kado.
21 The villagers are the first to taste the khanduri and the invited guests follow.
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The word kado, coming from the French word cadeau, is used here rather than its more traditional meaning in Arabic equivalent with hadiya.
JIP-International Multidisciplinary Journal The Ritual of Marriage Abdul Manan Maantra Marapulai At night the maantra marapulai ritual takes place.
22 Maantra marapulai is a ritual of taking the groom to the brideAs house for the inauguration of the The groom is escorted by the keuchik, imAm, ninik mamak, wali hukum, tuwo ampyk, neighbors, and male and female friends of the groom.
Before the groom and the group escorting him arrive at the brideAs house, the bride is dressed and adorned.
She wears a long black embroidered golden trousers and kebaya dress (Indonesian baju kebay.
with a scarf (Indonesian selympan.
and the panduo cloth (Jamee kain pandu.
, a cloth embroidered with golden thread, which is worn over the shoulder or diagonally across the body.
Kulahkama (Indonesian mahkot.
, a crown made of either metal or golden gilt, is worn on the brideAs head.
A necklace and a bracelet are also put on the neck and the hand respectively.
Afterwards the bride is seated at the gaily decorated dais, usually set up in the living room next to a window.
The beautiful bride is fit for a AkingA (Jamee rajo.
Indonesian raj.
and is now ready for the groom to arrive.
The groom also wears the traditional wedding dress.
He wears a long white sleeved shirt and a black coat.
Panduo cloth made of silungkang with embroidered golden thread is put on arounds hips.
The rencong AudaggerAy is inserted at his waist.
The kupiah meuketop23 Auhead clothAy is fitted on his head.
After this has been done, the imAm delivers a short speech as the last advice to free the groom from his parents.
The groom then deliberately comes forward to his parents seeking their AblessingA and asking their consent to leave the house for the brideAs house.
Here emotion is strongly felt by the parents, especially the groomAs mother.
She kisses, embraces her son and then cries inconsolably whilst liberating (Indonesian melepaska.
him as the married son to go to live with the family of his wife and only sometimes visit his own A AcoolingA ritual (Acehnese peupon taweu.
is then performed.
An old
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This is a tradition that has been widely practiced since the Dutch colonization period.
Later, during Japanese colonization this had changed somewhat because of the economic recession and unstable and escalated political turmoil.
The people, therefore, held it on the day for economical and security reasons (Sulaiman 1978: .
Now again in West Labuha Haji district and other neighboring districts conduct the ritual of sending the groom to the brideAs house at about 8 at night.
Kupiah meuketop is a kind of Turkish headband which is worn by the groom.
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and unhusked (Jamee pad.
over his head.
The groom now may leave from the house.
In front of the house, the imAm utters.
AO AllAh, call down blessing on our leader.
MuhammadA (Arabic AllAhumma shalli AalA saiyidinA Muhamma.
three times and all people answer.
Apeace be on himA (Arabic shallu Aalai.
in chorus.
The groom accompanied by his old and young relatives, religious leaders, invited guests, old men and women as well as by a group of pencak silat Aumartial arts specialistsAy players are then ready to leave for the brideAs house.
24 The number of accompanying people is decided beforehand and has been agreed on by both sides.
They leave for the brideAs house after the Anight prayerA (Acehnese sembahyang isyaA) at about 8 pm.
One of his best friends shades the groom with a gold colored wedding umbrella.
The groom then confidently moves to the brideAs house.
This group brings along the following market goods (Acehnese dabeh keud.
as gifts to the brideAs family:
Bride price placed in a decorated copper silver bowl (Jamee caran.
Betel leaves heaped up high on a rounded tray ( Jamee jamba siri.
Toilettries on a rounded tray.
Cloth and cosmetic products in a suitcase.
Onions, garlic, ginger, greens, chili and other food ingredients for the dishes are placed in a sanggyn (Acehnese amby.
which is made of wood connected with small irons to prevent the dishes from falling when it is moved.
In addition, the following garden produce is also presented as gifts for the brideAs family:
A bunch of young coconuts.
It isse said that this is a symbol that the groom is still young.
Straight sweet sugarcanes (Acehnese teuby mameh teupa.
together with their They are said to be a symbol of male fertility.
The couple hope to have children and grandchildren like the shoots of the sugarcane plants.
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In the capital city of South Acyh.
Tapak Tuan, pencak silat players, groups of zikir rebana and gendang salusin are invited into the group, especially in berhanta-hanta marriage.
On the way to the brideAs house they beat drum while humming religious songs reflecting the greatness of AllAh and His messenger (Sulaiman 1978: .
Betel leaves (Jamee jamba siri.
are presented only when there is no engagement ceremony or in a suspended marriage (Indonesian nikah gantun.
JIP-International Multidisciplinary Journal The Ritual of Marriage Abdul Manan All these gifts are called hantaran (Acehnese peunuw.
Once they are about to reach the brideAs house, the imAm again utters.
AO AllAh, call down blessing on our leader.
MuhammadA (Arabic AllAhumma shalli AalA saiyidinA Muhamma.
three times and all people answer.
Apeace be on himA (Arabic shallu Aalai.
in chorus.
This uttering is a sign that the groomAs group will soon arrive.
The group stops once they are about to step into the front yard of the brideAs Now the two groups are standing face to face.
The pencak silat group of the brideAs side puts on their best performance.
They stop right away when a traditional leader puts the tray of betel leaves right in between the two groups.
The village leader of the brideAs side greets the groomAs group by saying.
AuAre all present?Ay (Jamee ado hadir kasadonya?).
Which is soon answered.
AuyesAy (Jamee ad.
, by a traditional leader on the groomAs side.
Then the two shake hands and the host hospitably invite them to step into the house.
Once the groom reaches the feet of the house ladder, the traditional leaders come in front of the doorAs house to greet the groom (Jamee menyapo marapula.
with traditional poem.
26 The old women of the host spray the water of teupsng taweu onto the groom and scatter husked and unhusked rice over his head.
The groom is then guided by an old woman called peunganjue/mak pangapit into the house and sits on a mattress called kasue pandak which is placed on the verandah of the house.
The women of the visiting group sit in the main hall where the dais stands and the men sit outside the house.
After a while, the group leader of the groom recites a traditional poem27 to express the handing over of the groom to the brideAs side which is responded to by the representative of the bride.
Afterwards, the village head of the groomAs side stands in front of the men's group and delivers a traditional speech expressing the purpose of their presence and formally hands over the groom to become a new member of the house and the village.
This is immediately replied to by the village head of the bride accompanied by the imAm, niniak mamak, wali hukum affirming that they have warmly welcomed the groom into the house and the community.
28 Afterwards, the keuchik of the groomAs village hands ____________ For the traditional poem of greeting the groom (Jamee marapula.
, see Emtas .
5: 202-.
For the traditional poem of handing over the groom by the groomAs side, see Emtas .
5: 209-.
The speech of handing over the groom is intentionally held before eating so that everyone listens to it.
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The keuchik of the brideAs side receives the copper silver bowl and, after a while, uncovers in to allow people to see it.
All requirements have now been fulfilled.
The uttering of the marriage contract .
he reciting of akad nika.
29 can be soon conducted so that the groom and the bride are then deemed husband and wife.
The niniak mamak of the groom side says.
AuWhere is the tuangku whose guidance we follow? We have cleared the blocked branches, so as to follow the ShariAah law, the cutting up of the three marieh30 is up to youAy.
31 The authorized religious officer (Jamee tuangku imam/kadh.
replies with a succinct response.
Aif AllAh wills itA (Arabic insya AllA.
He, therefore, presides over the marriage contract ceremony in the presence of several witnesses from both parties to ensure the contract meets religious requirements.
The contract is signed by the brideAs father and the prospective groom and the bride price is paid then or at a stipulated date.
Furthermore, he delivers a short marriage sermon (Indonesian khutbah nika.
that advises the groom on the duties as a husband and vice versa, and of the consequences should the husband leave his wife.
The advice given is meant to ensure that the husband becomes a good husband and takes his responsibility as head of a family seriously.
A moment later, while holding the groomAs right hand, the imAm pronounces the marriage contract based on the Islamic requirement and ____________ The marriage contract (Indonesian akad nika.
consists of the ijab and kabul, shortened into ijab kabul.
Ijab is the utterance of the wali or kadhi of the behalf of the wali, starting that he marries the bride to the groom.
the words may be like this: AuBrother so and so .
e mentions the name of the groo.
I marry the girl named so and so .
e mentions the name of the brid.
to you with the bride price consisting of such and such .
e mentions the amount, volume and value of the bride pric.
, paid in cash .
r deb.
Kabul, on the other hand, is the groomAs response to the ijab, saying that he accepts the marriage of the bride to him with the marriage gift as stated by the wali or kadhi.
This marriage contract is attested by two witnesses who are usually the village leader and the imAm or other elders from the bride's village.
Marieh is the buffaloAs neck consisting of veins of the neck, artery and respiratory vessel.
In Jamee.
AuMano tuangku nan ikutan kami, kok samak nan bajalin alah kami tateh, mako untuk menjalankan hukum, mamatuih marieh nan tigo, kami pulangkan kepado tuangku kadhiAy.
The tuangku imam/kadhi marries the girl here because her wali has already asked him in advance.
A womanAs wali is her closest agnate, usually her father or fatherAs father.
her father or fatherAs father is dead, it falls onto his brothers, sons, bothersA son, etc.
, to assume the position in order of agnatic distance.
JIP-International Multidisciplinary Journal The Ritual of Marriage Abdul Manan rules which must be immediately and succinctly replied by the groom.
If the witnesses agree that the word of acceptance .
he groomAs utteranc.
has been made clearly and are acceptable to them and proclaim it adequate, the imAm then recites the doAa and wishing the newly married couple a happy life.
end the ceremony, the groom is then asked to sign all the necessary statutory documents of marriage making them valid and legal by law of the state.
The groom is now called a husband (Jamee lak.
and bride is now called a wife (Jam bini.
The groom is carefully led to the dais on which the bride is waiting.
On the floor leading to the dais, a traditional cloth called kain jajakan is laid.
The old penganjue33 guides the bride to move forward to traditionally welcome the husband into the house at the other end of the kain jajakan where the groom stands still with the penganjue.
The bride then wipes the feet of the husband with flowered water already prepared in a bowl.
The two shake each other hands during which the groom presents a monetary gift to the bride.
The groom then walks with the bride to the dais with the guidance of the penganjue.
The two take a seat on the dais.
This ritual is called bersandiang duo, which can be translated as Asitting together side by sideA.
At the same time the invited guests in the yard and the group of the groom's side in the house taste the various kinds of foods served.
There is a special rice with dishes on a round tray (Jam daluan.
called nasi bisan which is particularly prepared for the groomAs parents (Jamee urang If this special rice is eaten by other persons of the groomAs side, they must place some money on the round tray.
It is a sign that the eaters are the people who know the adat rules or they are Acultured peopleA (Emtas 2008:.
This ritual is preceded by the newly married couple eating together for the first time the food prepared on a special table in front of the dais.
Watched playfully by the others, the couple, nervous and joyful, feed one another (Indonesian saling sua.
the food and drinks seven times.
This ritual is called bertimbang basawok and symbolizes togetherness, reciprocal understanding and a sense of responsibility toward one another (See also Soelaiman .
9: .
The invited guests and the group from the groom's side leave the brideAs house after the batimbang basawok ritual is finished.
A friend of the ____________ It is called induk inang in the capital city of South Acyh.
Tapak Tuan (Manaf 1977: .
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When all guests have left the house, the ceremony is soon concluded.
The groom and the bride are allowed to leave the dais.
He with his friend takes a rest on the verandah which has already been prepared.
In another room, the relatives of the bride and a number of distinguished traditional leaders open up and display the gifts from the groom to all family members.
The bride's family then distributes some cooked rice with various side dishes to the niniak mamak and wali hukum.
Some betel leaves and some straight sweet sugarcane are distributed to the neighboring families.
At night the groom and the bride are guided into a room by the penganjue.
The room has been prepared with a red curtain (Jamee tabi.
, a reddish palanguin (Jamee langik-langi.
, and tiered pillows (Jamee banta basusue.
which have been adorned with a reddish and embroidered golden thread (Jamee kasa.
The couples take off their traditional wedding dress and sleep on the wedding bed (Jamee peraty.
which is covered with a decorated mosquito net (Jamee caradi.
also embroidered in golden 34 In the past, the ritual of sending the couples to the wedding bed was performed by the penganjue at midnight.
During the ritual she played a decisive role in ensuring a warm and intimate feeling prevail between the two.
She would suggest any necessary advice if she finds the couples are shy with each other (Sulaiman 1987:.
Now this ritual is no longer often practiced as many couples have already known each other before they get married.
At dawn on the following day, the groom and his friend go back to his house as in the afternoon he, accompanied by an old woman, has to come back to the brideAs house.
In that very day, the menjelang ritual takes place.
Menjelang Menjelang is a ritual of taking the bride (Acehnese antat
to the groomAs house escorted by a group of respected old
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For aristocratic and religious leadersA families such as the family of the AulamAAo, sayyd etc, the room, curtain, tiered pillows, dais etc are adorned with a yellow embroidered golden thread whilst the marriage ritual takes place.
JIP-International Multidisciplinary Journal The Ritual of Marriage Abdul Manan men and women.
At around 3 oAclock in the afternoon, this group arrives at the groomAs house and presents the following garden produce as reciprocal gifts and market goods to the groomAs family:
Idang nasi kunyit/jamba filled up with the cooked yellow glutinous rice which is heaped up high like a pyramid form on a quadrangle made of wood with four legs and a long rounded wooden pole in the middle (Acehnese capah idan.
and covered with thin sweet cakes called tumpi (Acehnese tump.
In addition, there are traditional cakes attached to it such as, keukarah, kamaloyang, seupyt and juadah talue, the same idang as at the khanduri myAlst ritual.
Sometimes on top of nasi kunyik/jamba, there is toasted chicken.
Special traditional cakes such as dodoi, meuseukat and wajyb are placed in a rounded tray.
A special packet of food with various side dishes filled in many sets of stacked containers for transporting food called rantang.
Some rantang are filled with the ordinary cooked rice and some others are filled with side dishes such as cooked vegetables, cooked fish together with their broth, cooked meat with their broth, toasted and fried chicken, meat, and fish including boiled eggs and salted eggs, the same side dishes are used for the khanduri myAlst ritual.
Arriving at the groomAs house, the group places these gifts on the front verandah of the house.
They are then asked to step into the house and are served with betel leaves while having a chat with the groomAs family.
The ceremony of giving these gifts to the groomAs family is then held.
One of the gift bringers on behalf the brideAs side says.
AuWhere are Auour parentsAy in this house? We bring a shipful of rice, even if it is mushy, or not perfect.
It is understandable we, old people cook it, whether it is salty or not.
This is what we have and bring for our elder sister in this houseAy.
35 The host group answers.
AuOur younger sisterAs gifts are not seen as mushy/uncooked but we hold up our heads.
The mountain is smaller.
our younger sisterAs gifts are ____________ Jamee.
AuMano dusanak nan urang tuo kami dirumahko, kami ko ado membawok sakapa nasi, antah lambiak, antah baratah, maklumlah buatan kami nan tuo-tuo, kok antah asin, antah hamba, ikolah nan ado kami bawok dakyk kakak di rumahkoAy .
ee Sulaiman, 1978: .
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We believe that these are the best gifts ever givenAy.
Here there is the situation in which the gift exchange takes place between two parties, the brideAs side (Jamee pihak lak.
and the groomAs side (Jamee pihak padus.
but they talk about these parties as if they were elder and younger sister in the context in which the bride is presented to the groom.
Right after the ceremony of giving these gifts has finished, another group of women called menjelang escorts the bride to the groomAs house.
The groomAs side has already been well prepared for their arrival.
Unlike the group who escorts the groom which consists of men and women, the group of menjelang consists of only women.
The bride is shaded with a wedding umbrella by the penganjue.
The brideAs side is waiting for the visiting group in the front yard when the menjelang group is about to arrive.
Once they arrive, an old woman warmly greets and welcomes them by presenting carano sirih.
She asks the group.
AuAre all present?Ay (Jamee ada datang kasadony.
which is soon replied by the group with a brief answer.
AuyesAy (Jam ad.
The group is then asked to go into the house.
When the bride and the groom step in, the two are sprayed with the water of rice flour on their hands and foreheads and sprinkled with husked and unhusked rice from right to left.
Afterwards, the bride and the groom are again guided toward the dais where they take a seat and the others taste the foods served.
After the meal, the bride, guided by an old woman, is then introduced and she shakes hands with the parents and niniak mamak of the groom.
The parents and niniak mamak give a monetary gift to the bride amounting to Rp 000 to Rp.
This ritual is called teumuntuak.
It is then continued by Agiving the brideA (Jamee mamulangkan anak dar.
to the host of the groomAs This is performed by an old woman as the representative of the brideAs side who delivers a traditional speech.
The ritual of giving the food plates to the bride by the groom's side then follows (Jamee memulangkan pinggan maka.
This ritual symbolizes that the bride carries an obligation to look after the groomAs property.
The visiting group then leaves the house in the evening.
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Jamee.
AuPembawok adikko, dikami indak kami pandang mantah, melainkan kami junjung diatyh kepalo kami, kytyk gunung, gadang pambawok adik kami koAy .
ee Sulaiman, 1978: .
JIP-International Multidisciplinary Journal The Ritual of Marriage Abdul Manan Before leaving, the parents of the groom, through an old woman, presents another cloth and monetary gift called paragieh to the bride.
The old woman says.
AuThis is what his mother .
roomAs mothe.
has for you (Jamee ini lah nan ado dari umakny.
It is replied with a grateful expression.
AuAll praise and thanks be to AllAhAy (Arabic alhamdulillA.
Rituals after the wedding ceremony At about two to five days after the day of sending the bride to the groomAs house, the Auritual of tracing backAy (Jamee maulang jaja.
is In this ritual, the bride accompanied by several old women pay a visit to the groomAs parents in the early morning.
They bring along a present made up of glutinous rice.
The bride does not wear the traditional wedding dress.
The purpose of this visit is to get to know each other (Indonesian beramah tama.
and strengthen the already established relationship between the bride and the groomAs families.
They stay in the groomAs house for a few hours.
When leaving, the groomAs families give a gift of cloth to them.
Although the Atracing backA ritual has finished, this does not mean that all adat interaction between both sides is over.
The established relationship between the two families through the traditional ceremony and ritual procedures continues.
By custom, in fact, the traditional procedures are seen to be finished after one year of marriage after the bride delivers her first baby.
For instance, two days before the celebration of the end of Ramadhan (ArabicAd alFit.
and the celebration on the tenth day of Dzulhijjah (ArabicAd al-adhA), that is the day of meugang, the parents of the groom will send some needed materials such as meat, coconut oil, coconut, glutinous rice, etc including the materials for the making of traditional cakes for celebrating meugang days to the bride's house.
In return, on the same day and on the day of Ad al-Fitr and Ad al-adhA the bride
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In the capital city of South Acyh.
Tapak Tuan, however, the ritual of fetching the bride (Jamee manjapuik anak dar.
is performed prior to the Aritual of tracing backA (Jamee maulang jaja.
In the ritual of fetching the bride, the parents of the groom ask several old women to bring carano sirih to the brideAs house which signifies a traditional endorsement of the invitation to the bride to pay a visit to her husbandAs parents.
To comply with the invitation, the bride moves to the house of the groomAs parents.
She stays there for a night enjoying a warm welcome from the groom's family.
Music and art performance such as kaba unggyh bamban and rentak kudo is presented to thoroughly entertain the bride (Sulaiman 1978: .
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Again, the parents of the groom reciprocate the gift by putting money in the place where the bride had placed the gifts to them earlier.
This ritual, too, applies when the bride is pregnant and when giving birth.
During the days of pregnancy, for instance, the parents of the groom send required materials such as coconut, coconut oil, rice, glutinous rice, betel leaves, cooking spices etc to the brideAs house to conduct the ritual of Augiving rice to the midwifeAy (Jamee kanduri maagieh nasi bide.
On the day of delivery, the husbandAs mother will send presents .
cradle, bedclothes, and jewelr.
to the daughter-in-law in preparation of the bathing ritual (Acehnese peutron bak i.
for the newborn baby.
The spouses stay in Aone kitchenA (Indonesian satu dapu.
for a year or more or until they are seen as capable of financially and socially running their own family.
When they have decided to live on their own, a ritual of Auseparation of the cooking potAy (Jamee paasieng periu.
is held.
It is intentionally conducted to indicate the readiness of the spouses to live on their own.
In the ceremony, the wifeAs parents hand over needed wealth such as rice fields, garden, livestock, and domestic equipment for continuing their life to the spouse.
These gifts are called panulang or peunulang.
Although this ritual marks a separation of the responsibility, it does not necessarily mean a separation of house.
They remain in the same house until they can afford a house of their own.
If the wife is the only child or her siblings have acquired their own houses, the wifeAs parentsA house is destined for them so that the daughter inherits the house.
See the following summary of stages in the establishment of affinity.
Stages in establishing affinity Phases Names Actions Relations: kinship Risiak Talangkai Niniak mamak (MB) Bisiak Talangkai Seeking information regarding the prospective brideAs Negotiating with the prospective parents of the brideAs side in .
JIP-International Multidisciplinary Journal Niniak mamak (MB) The Ritual of Marriage Abdul Manan Dohai Both parents of the groom and bride, niniak mamak and wali Menendei Keuchik, imAm, niniak mamak and wali Niniak mamak and wali hukum, tuwo ampyk, keuchik imAm, tuwo ampyk and Wedding Maantra Keuchik, imAm, niniak mamak, wali hukum, tuwo ampek, male and female friends of the groom Keuchik ImAm/kadhi The father of the bride Tuwo ampyk Menjelang Keuchik, imAm,niniak mamak, wali hukum, tuwo ampyk, male and Beginning to make their consultation public by inviting niniak mamak and wali This meeting is called rapat niniak Presenting a Amark of engagementA to the prospective brideAs Calling a meeting to set the date and thoroughly problems relating to the preparation work led male members of niniak mamak.
Transferring the groom to the brideAs house and giving the market goods and garden produce to the brideAs family.
Parents of the groom and bride, niniak mamak and wali hukum Handing over gifts to the brideAs side Uttering of marriage conducted for the groom and the bride Signing the contract of marriage Paying the bride price Keuchik Transferring the bride to the groomAs house Niniak mamak, wali hukum and keuchik, imAm.
Niniak mamak, wali hukum, keuchik, imAm, tuwo ampyk and Keuchik, imAm, niniak mamak, wali hukum, village elders, neighbours, male and female friends of the ImAm/kadhi Wali hukum (FB) Tuwo ampyk of the groomAs side Keuchik, imAm, tuwo ampyk, niniak mamak, wali hukum, neighbours, male and female friends of the JIP-International Journal Indexed .
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AGiving the brideA to the host of the groom Giving the food plates by the groomAs side to the bride A female reprentative of the brideAs side A female representative of the brideAs side A female representative of the groomAs side Closing In Aneuk Jamee society, men play a more active role in finding a match than women.
That is why men are personified as AubeetleAy while women are passive and await the Aucoming beetleAy and are personified as AuflowerAy.
Men propose a marriage while women cannot, but they have the right to agree or disagree to the proposed marriage.
Even so, the final decision is in the hands of the parents who first decide and, thus, arrange whom their children are to Parents ask their sonAs agreement prior to proposing a woman and conversely, the agreement of the woman is more often neglected.
Modernization has inevitably led to changes in the cultural and structural system of traditional society and in the traditional society of the Aneuk Jamee.
Women and men are currently inclined to be more independent of their parentsAchoice in deciding their match.
Thus, parents now have fewer roles in choosing their sonAs marriage partner.
The engagement ceremony carries the sign of intended marriage that a woman has been traditionally AboundA to a man.
The prerequisite for marriage is respecting the norms regulating the matrimonial processes.
It consists of certain procedures to be completed before the ijab qabul ritual is undertaken to ensure that the marriage is lawful and valid.
Among the prerequisites are health .
oth physical and menta.
and wealth .
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These prerequisites are all in line with Islamic teaching.
In all phases of the Aneuk Jamee marriage ritual, the group who negotiate, decide, perform the ritual, exchange gifts are defined or recruited on the basis of kinship and affinity.
they are all the nuclear family of the bride and the groom, niniak mamak, wali hukum and in terms of .
JIP-International Multidisciplinary Journal The Ritual of Marriage Abdul Manan authority in local organizations such the keuchik, the imAm, tuwo ampyk, neighbour, and male and female friends of the bride and the groom .
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The whole ritual culminates in the establishment of affinity.
These people are in terms of ShariAah law represented by the imAm, in terms of adat they are represented by keuchik .
he village hea.
, in terms of the village elders they are represented by tuwo ampyk and so on.
However, the whole single image is that authority in conducting a marriage relationship does not derive from the patrilineal relatives but from the matrilineal ones.
Any time we look at negotiation, exchange, gifts, it is the niniak mamak that presides.
On the one hand, there is a concept of patrilineal kinship which stresses patrilineal descent, that is wali hukum and on the other hand, there is a Minangkabau concept of kinship which stresses matrilineal descent in constructing the marriage relationship.
Wali hukum do not seem to play many significant roles in the establishment of affinity.
The role of the brideAs father as wali hukum in this ritual is signing the contract of the marriage.
Another role, that is uttering the marriage contract conducted for the bride and the groom is not performed by him but by tuangku imAm/kadhi.
Most parts of the ritual are performed by both niniak mamak of the bride and groom.
Never are a bride and groom represented by wali hukum.
Niniak mamak is responsible in marriage.
transactions are performed by niniak mamak in the rituals.
The sibling of the bride and groom are not given any formal roles in the wedding ceremony.
The Aneuk JameeAs wedding is accompanied by an elaborate series of gift exchanges between the groom and the brideAs parents.
Apart from the exchange of money and jewelry, the gifts given from the groomAs side to the brideAs called hantaran are the market goods such as cloth, cosmetic products, fruit, toilet articles, trinkets, etc.
These gifts are reciprocated by the brideAs side to the groomAs side and are not distinguished by special terms but consist of cooked food which is prepared by women in the kitchen.
The notion of marriage in the Aneuk Jamee is, therefore, of some theoretical significance in understanding the domestic life of the Aneuk Jamee society.
In the complex web of the reciprocal gift exchange that characterizes the Aneuk Jamee wedding and in the definition of the domestic roles in the household that are about to be established, the wife provides the home as well the cooked food for the husband.
This exchange is conceptualized as a relation between the host .
and the guest .
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