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php/alwijdan Received: Oktober 2022 Accepted: November 2022 Published: Januari 2023 Parenting Patterns For Broken Home Children Hamam Burhanuddin.
Fahmi Khumaini.
Muhaiminatut Thohiroh Universitas Nahdlatul Ulama Sunan Giri Bojonegoro.
Universitas Nahdlatul Ulama Sunan Giri Bojonegoro.
Universitas Nahdlatul Ulama Sunan Giri Bojonegoro Email: hamam@sunan-giri.
Abstrak Angka perceraian di Kabupaten Bojonegoro meningkat menurut data dispensasi kawin tahun 2019 angka cerai talak mencapai 956 dan cerai gugat sejumlah 1915 kasus, sedangkan pada tahun 2020 angka cerai talak mencapai 914 dan cerai gugat sebanyak 1979 kasus.
Kecamatan yang mengalami kasus perceraian tertinggi adalah Kecamatan Dander meningkatnya kasus perceraian akan berdampak pada pola asuk anak yang ditinggalkan, penelitian ini bertujuan untuk mengetahui pola asuh anak broken home di Kecamatan Dander Kabupaten Bojonegoro, fokus dari penelitian ini adalah pada intelektual dan karakter psikologis anak yang mengalami broken home.
Penelitian ini merupakan penelitian lapangan dengan pendekatan kualitatif.
Subjek penelitian terdiri dari tiga anak broken home dengan latar belakang yang berbeda yaitu bercerai, meninggal, dan orang tua yang cukup lama tidak hadir secara penuh.
Teknik pengumpulan data adalah observasi, wawancara mendalam, dan dokumentasi.
Teknik analisis data reduksi data, penyajian data, dan verifikasi penarikan kesimpulan.
Memeriksa validitas temuan menggunakan pengamatan yang diperluas, ketekunan peneliti, dan triangulasi.
Hasil dari penelitian ini Pola asuh yang diterapkan pada anak broken home adalah pola asuh demokratis dan pola asuh ditinjau dari segi intelektual terdapat penurunan kemampuan kognitif, keterlambatan membaca, dan kesulitan berkonsentrasi selama proses pembelajaran, sementara karakter psikologis yang terjadi pada anak adalah anak cenderung memiliki temperamen yang buruk, ketidakstabilan emosi, sensitif, dan memiliki kepribadian yang tertutup.
Faktor yang mendukung dan menghambat pola asuh terdiri dari faktor internal dan faktor eksternal.
Faktor internal meliputi perhatian orang tua, pemahaman agama orang tua, dan pendidikan orang tua.
Sedangkan faktor eksternal meliputi lingkungan tempat tinggal anak.
Kata Kunci: Parenting.
Anak Broken Home Abstract The divorce rate in Bojonegoro Regency has increased.
Based on data in the 2019 divorce rate reached 956 divorce cases amounted to 1915.
In 2020 the divorce rate was 914 and the number of divorce lawsuit was 1979.
The sub-district that experienced the highest divorce cases was the Dander District's increase in divorce cases, which will impact the parenting pattern of abandoned children.
This study aims to determine the parenting pattern of broken home children in Dander District.
Bojonegoro Regency focus of this research is on the intellectual and psychological characteristics of children who experience broken home.
This research is field research with a qualitative approach.
The research subjects consisted of three broken-home children with different backgrounds: divorced, deceased, and parents who were not present for a long time.
Data collection techniques are observation, in-depth interviews, and documentation.
Data collection techniques are observation, in-depth interviews, and documentation.
Data analysis techniques are data reduction, data presentation, and verification of conclusion drawing.
Validity of the findings using extended observations, researcher persistence, and triangulation.
The results of this study are the parenting patterns applied to children from broken homes are democratic parenting and permissive parenting.
The terms of their intellectuals are a decrease in cognitive abilities, reading delays and difficulty concentrating during the learning process, while the psychological characteristics that occur in children are that children tend to have bad temperaments, emotional instability, are sensitive and have closed personalities.
Parenting consists of internal factors and external factors.
Internal factors include parental attention, parental religious understanding, and parental education.
While external factors include the environment where the child lives.
Keywords: Parenting.
Broken Home Children the family is the first source of education Introduction that a child receives as a new individual3.
Education is important for every Although not the only source of education, individual, because education can grow a the family is still the foundation of the This can be seen from several entering formal education in the sense of aspects, such as the knowledge gained and also the applied moral education1.
Education is not only limited to school or college, but education is a shared responsibility, starting community and family as the smallest 2 The family is the smallest sphere, but precisely because of that the family environment is an important part in the introduction of early education, therefore As stated in Article 26 paragraph 1 of the Republic of Indonesia Law Number 35 of 2014 concerning Amendments to Law Number 23 of 2002 concerning Child Protection, it is stated that parents are obliged and responsible for: a.
develop children according to their abilities, talents and interests.
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provide protection, love, teach kindness, in providing character education and speech and behavior so as to prevent inculcating character values in children4.
the word of Allah SWT in Surah At-Tahriim commendable and violates norms both in verse 6: Meaning: O you who believe! religious norms and applicable social norms.
Protect yourselves and your families from which in the end will avoid from the the hell fire whose fuel is man and stone.
torments of hellfire and the abyss of their guardians are harsh, harsh angels, who Moral education given by do not disobey Allah in what He commands parents to children is a preparation for the them and always do what is commanded.
maturity of children in facing the future and The Quraish Shihab interprets this verse that Allah SWT recommends that family life be the subject of thought for every human being and valuable lessons should be drawn from it.
According to his interpretation, development of children, it is said that because children are a mandate from Allah SWT that must be cared for and guided.
Thus the importance of the role of parents is the main foundation in children's moral family life, in addition to being one of the The phenomenon of broken home many signs of divine greatness, is also a is rife.
This is marked by the increasing blessing that must be utilized and at the divorce rate in Bojonegoro.
Wills explains same time grateful.
For the sake of creating that Broken Home is defined as a fractured a harmonious family life and getting the family, namely a condition of loss of family smallest unit of a country to function attention or lack of affection from parents properly.
Islam through its Shari'a stipulates caused by several things, it can be due to many guidelines and regulations.
5 In this divorce so that the child only lives with one case, parents have an important role to play biological parent.
Broken Home can be seen as madrasatul ula or the first school for from two aspects, namely .
The family is children, especially in providing character divided because the structure is not intact education and inculcating character values in because one of the family members has died This is intended as an effort to be or has been divorced, .
Parents are not grateful for the blessings of Allah SWT and divorced, but the family structure is no in an effort to create a sakinah, mawaddah longer intact because of the father or wa rahmah family6 .
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AL-WIJDyAN or do not show affectionate relationships home is still in the stage of growth and development which should require a lot of Research from Azizah divorce can have an impact on children's psychological conditions such as lack of attention and affection for children against child's parental confusion, restlessness, shame and sadness, disturbances and will run to juvenile delinquency and drugs.
In addition, the lack of affection for children, this also affects the behavior of children.
Broken home can cause children to feel that they have lost the important role of family in their lives, feel stressed, depressed, and feel that they are the cause of the separation.
The impact of a broken home will generally make children feel sad and lose their motivation or enthusiasm for life.
10 The results of research from Novianto the impact of a broken home on children causes parents' attention to children to be reduced.
They tend to be more preoccupied with their own business.
This is what can trigger children to take actions to deviate from norms and result in the creation of bad behavior and even love and parental guidance.
And it is exacerbated by the unpreparedness of the husband and wife at the time of marriage until a divorce occurs.
Reporting from the Bojonegoro Religious Court website that divorce cases are increasing every year.
For 2020, most of the applicants are women.
After research, it turns out that 80 percent of them are caused by early marriage.
12 Early marriage not only has an impact on husband and wife, but children will also be affected.
The Minister of Women's Empowerment and Child Protection.
Bintang Puspayoga, said that child marriage has a massive impact including the increased risk of dropping out of school, low income, physical health due to girls not being ready to get pregnant and giving birth and mental unpreparedness to build a household that triggers violence, improper parenting to The wrong parenting will cause other risks such as triggering domestic violence, stunting, and psychological and moral problems for children.
Method This research is a field research with There have been many examples, a qualitative approach.
The research subjects children who are victims of divorce have consisted of three children, 1 child aged 7 become neglected, commit crimes, are and 2 children aged 13 years from a broken home with different backgrounds, namely Moreover, if the child victim of a broken divorced and parents who were not present Volume Vi.
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And referring to Elizabeth B Hurlock's theory that parenting is divided reconciliation and other cases for each sub- into three, namely authoritarian parenting, district in Bojonegoro Regency in 2019 and democratic parenting and Laissez Faire 2020 state that in 2019 the number of divorced divorces reached 956 and divorced location is in Dander District.
Bojonegoro cases amounted to 1915 cases.
Meanwhile.
Regency, which is the highest sub-district in 2020 the number of divorced divorces for divorce cases in 2020.
The study was reached 914 and there were 1979 cases of conducted for 6 months, data collection The global divorce rate rose from techniques were through observation with 2,871 to 2,893, which means that the parents, teachers at schools and neighbors divorce rate increased by 22 cases from the in-depth previous year.
The three sub-districts that interviews with parents broken home experienced the highest divorce cases were children about parenting practices for their Dander District.
Bojonegoro District, and children, parental attention to children, and Kedungadem District.
(Data from the support for children, interviews were also Bojonegoro Religious Court in 2019 and conducted with teachers at schools and 2020, n.
) In analyzing problems in neighbors for broken home children, the children from broken homes, researchers last is documentation of broken home parents and children.
The data analysis namely from the school environment and technique used is in the form of data sometimes the two can be contradictory, in the sense that in a good community Checking the validity of the findings using environment but in a bad education environment, or vice versa but also does not Research rule out the possibility that in these two informants consist of parents or foster care, environments children have the same good neighbors and teachers, where children from or bad personality.
The persistence, and triangulation.
broken homes live.
Public.
Because Broken Home can be seen from two Results and Discussion The case of divorce rates in Bojonegoro Regency has increased.
Data on the 2020 marriage dispensation and data on aspects, namely .
The family is divided because the structure is not intact because one of the family members died or has been divorced, .
The parents are not divorced.
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often not second child.
Ariel, is sent to Madrasah.
at home and or not showing affectionate admitted that his son's personality was relationships anymore.
15 In this study, different, especially in terms of worship and research subjects from the aspect of divorce, learning at Madrasah was better.
Nartiah namely divorced and divorced, and one revealed that Ariel never had problems at research subject with aspects of parents who home even after the death of her father, were not present in full for a long time.
Ariel became more diligent in worship, communicative, obedient and open to her Findings The problems faced are related to parenting for broken home children in the aspect of divorce Meanwhile, according to Ariel's neighbor.
Suhardi also revealed that Ariel never had any problems in the community.
In analyzing the problem data faced Suhardi admitted that Ariel is an obedient with broken home parenting in the aspect of child and is often at home, even though divorce, the researchers collected data by Ariel does not mix well with the children interview and observation, namely Ariel.
because he does not participate in activities in his environment such as playing soccer in Ariel was left by his father about a his environment.
However, after the death of his father not much has changed in Ariel.
Now Ariel lives with her He is known to be a good boy in his mother at home.
According to her mother's narrative.
Nartiah revealed that Ariel is an obedient, open, and diligent child.
After the Meanwhile.
Wahyu death of his father, he became more diligent Wijayanti as a Javanese language teacher at in worship.
Ariel's mother considers that all MTs Roudhotus Sholihin as well as Ariel's these changes cannot be separated from the 5th grade homeroom teacher revealed that control of the school.
Ariel's mother is Ariel had changed.
In terms of Ariel's grateful and considers the school to have made a big contribution to Ariel in instilling intellectually also experienced a slight Ariel becomes more difficult to Ariel's difference in the characters of her two children, her first child was educated in a Mathematics.
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From this influenced by his friends, if he is close to a explanation.
Ananda Aril has a family noisy friend then he will also be noisy and problem where parents' attention to him vice versa.
In terms of activity.
Wahyu notes tends to be a little so that Aril feels he that he once went on strike from school doesn't get special attention and Aril tends to have an emotional nature that is irritable, communication is maintained between the sensitive and has learning disorders while at school and parents, namely by having It can be concluded that Aril is a regular meetings every month, children's child who tends to be sensitive, experiences problems can be overcome together in emotional instability and decreases his encouraging students to learn, so that grasping power in learning However, children can still walk in their respective The problems faced are related to the parenting style of broken home In this study focused on the children in the aspect of divorce.
character and intellectual problems of According to Ariel's mother.
Nartiah and her neighbor Suhardi in their interview explained that Ariel was a good and obedient child, even after the death of his father he became more diligent in So it can be said that Ariel has no problems with society.
Meanwhile, in the school environment.
Ariel's teacher.
Wahyu, revealed that since the death of his father Ariel has changed a little, especially in his emotions, he has become more sensitive.
addition, he often does not understand the material well, especially in mathematics.
Therefore, it can be concluded that Ariel has a problem with her character in the form of emotional instability and is easily sensitive, while Ariel's intellectual problems also occur in the form of a decrease in understanding The second research subject with divorce factor is Reza.
Reza not only went to school there, but he was also housed there, which is a foundation, namely the Mambaul Ulum Islamic Boarding School.
Bulu Village.
Sugihwaras District.
Bojonegoro Regency.
Reza is a victim of a broken home from his parents' divorce in Dander.
In obtaining data on the subject, caregivers who were also teachers at PAUD Nurul Ulum and Madrasah Diniyah teachers at Mambaul Ulum Islamic Boarding School.
Besides Reza's condition at home, at the cottage at school and at the madrasah diniyah.
So that researchers can take data from the character and intellectual problems experienced.
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AL-WIJDyAN Reza studied at the Islamic boarding by opening a coffee shop business.
Because school for about a year, after his father and his mother worked, he did not get enough mother divorced and then his mother supervision and love, so he used to play Reza was brought by his mother alone at home.
and stepfather to the Mambaul Ulum Islamic Boarding School.
This motivated by the fact that the son of his stepfather had previously been in this cottage for 3 months of rehabilitation on instructions from the Dander Police and the Bojonegoro Social Service who were then taken to the Mambaul Ulum Islamic Boarding School, so it was from his stepfather's path that Reza was put into this cottage whose purpose was to educate and improve Reza's character to be better both in terms of character, social, intellectual, and Not only did it stop there, but Reza's intellectual power also experienced delays from his friends.
In this 2nd grade.
Reza still cannot read and write, which then becomes a big problem for Reza in the learning process.
At his home.
Reza was registered with PAUD and Raudhatul Athfal, but because his mother was busy working so he didn't go to school because there was no one to accompany him, plus due to the Covid-19 pandemic he couldn't to school to the implementation of distance learning.
This adds to Reza's slump in the learning process, both in formal and non-formal schools.
conditions and the development of Reza's terms of social.
Reza is used to making character at home and at the cottage, the friends with older children so he is lazy to researcher interviewed the caretaker of the study because he underestimates the lesson.
cottage who had communicated with Reza's Therefore.
Reza is a privileged student in biological mother from the start.
Regarding treatment at school, so Reza at his school the background.
Mrs.
Nyai Endang Sri this time he was placed in the front row Samsuni as the caretaker of the cottage and which aims to make him more focused in also the PAUD teacher Nurul Ulum learning, besides that he also gets extra explained Reza's background until he arrived hours of lessons at the end of the teaching at the cottage.
According to his narrative, and learning activity session.
Reza is the son of Mrs.
Sutini and Mr.
Muhdi.
After the divorce Reza lived with his mother, because her mother became the backbone of the family, her mother worked About the condition of the house.
Reza is still reluctant to tell.
It's just that his mother sometimes tells Mrs.
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Socially.
Reza is easy to get along with and adapts to, but when he is invited to study or recite the Koran, he is still lazy, and that causes him not to focus on lessons.
Meanwhile, for primary needs such as food and drink, study needs, and clothes, the huts and Reza's parents will fulfill them fifty-fifty, but if there is not enough, the hut will back In addition.
Reza is also famous for being temperamental when he is angry and likes to fight with his friends.
From the results of interviews on the second research subject, it can be concluded that Reza has problems in his closed and temperamental characteristics.
Meanwhile, in intellectual matters, because he lacked supervision and affection from his condition which caused him not to be able to fully participate in learning at his previous school.
Reza became late in terms of reading skills which led to a lack of understanding of the material presented by the teacher.
As a While the second interview with result, he becomes daydreaming and lazy to Muflihatul Fauziah as Reza's teacher at the study because he finds it difficult to Koran Education Park (TPQ) said that understand the material presented plus he is Reza's character development was quite left behind with his friends.
From some of good.
Reza obeyed the rules at the cottage.
the data presented above, it can be However, during the learning process.
Reza concluded that Reza has a lack of did not focus on studying, he often looked communication problems, when Reza's daydreaming and lazy, plus he could not school is difficult to understand the lessons read which made it difficult for Reza to conveyed by the teacher.
Reza tends to have understand the material so he was left a temperamental attitude which causes Reza behind with his friends.
Even so.
Reza to often skip school and be lazy to study at continued to follow the learning and teaching activities well, he obeyed the rules that were applied.
In addition.
Reza also has a character that quiet though Reza will be But furthermore.
Muflihatul Fauziah has never The problems faced are related to parenting for broken home children in the aspect of parents who are not present in full for quite a long time.
communicated directly with Reza's parents.
In the third research subject, the while communication is still limited between researcher conducted a study on Vano with Volume Vi.
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observations at his house.
Vano's silence or Currently he lives at home with his not being fussy could not be separated from grandmother, because his father works in the mobile phone that was made for playing.
Kalimantan and his mother stays at home However.
Siti Umila admits that so far her only in the afternoon until the evening.
character is good, willing to be invited to analyzing the problems that occur related to worship, obedient and creative.
Meanwhile, parenting, the researchers took data by Vano's primary and secondary needs are met Vano's by his parents and whatever is asked of him grandmother, neighbors, and teachers to see is always complied with.
On this basis.
Siti problems that occurred at home, in Vano's Umila considers that at home there is no social and intellectual sphere at school.
problem because communication is still The first data collection was by Siti The second data interview was Umailah.
Siti Umailah is 50 years old and conducted with Veno's neighbor.
Diah currently works as a farmer with a junior Indrawati.
According to Diah.
Vano is a high school education or equivalent.
child who can interact well, especially when raising Vano.
Siti Umailah often approaches However, it is possible that he is Vano by sharing stories with Vano.
This is naughty, but still in a naughty manner which intended to instill a sense of mutual trust, is common for children at the age.
communicative and transparent.
So Siti Regarding the interaction of parents with Umailah understands in detail the problem the environment.
Diah admitted that his that happened to Vano.
As for the communication between Vano's father and environment, because he worked far away mother.
Siti Umailah admitted that Vano's and came home only once a year, while his father and mother often gave news, even mother was not at home every day.
The every day by means of video calls.
This third interview was conducted with Vano's causes them to be communicative and their teacher at the MI Roudhotus Sholihin father and mother's way of giving attention, school.
Iin Taufiq.
Pd is Vano's class teacher, namely the homeroom teacher of Furthermore.
Siti Umila said that while at Iin said that Vano was an active home.
Vano was not fussy and did not often child at school but he often fought with his go out of the house.
friends at school.
Vano's going on.
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21 hours per week on the cognitive level However, in his speech.
Vano is a polite .
ogic-mathematical However, when in class and in the games with a short duration can have a process of teaching and learning activities, positive impact on cognitive or intelligence.
Vano is difficult to focus on lessons, easy to Playing games for a long time and done daydream, and plus he is classified as a child every day can have a negative impact on who reads late.
This became a big influence cognitive or intelligence.
Playing games can for Vano in understanding the lessons develop brain abilities related to cognitive or conveyed by the teachers.
logical-mathematical intelligence such as the So in parenting with parental aspects that were not present completely for a long time, which resulted in the parenting pattern shifting to Vano's grandmother, problems The Playing ability to count, logical thinking and problem solving.
Games can help children learn if playing can be controlled or limited to a duration of 3 hours per day.
This is in accordance with Iin's teacher Vano's statement that Vano often according to grandmother and neighbors, daydreams and doesn't focus on the lesson.
Vano does not play much outside the house During class.
Vano's teacher asks what's and is a quiet child, but after being observed wrong.
Vano is just daydreaming, is there a when meeting him at home, it turns out that Vano's silence is caused by the facilities answered Vano.
In intellectual matters, provided by his grandmother in the form of especially in the teaching and learning a mobile phone that is used to play games.
process, problems also arise that Vano is This is certainly not good if it is done still a child who is late to read and this has According to research, playing an effect on the lack of understanding of the games continuously can have an impact on material presented by the teacher in class children's cognitive.
(Iin sai.
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comprehension in learning.
Parenting patterns for Broken Home It can be said that the problems that happened to Ariel were not so extreme, this Based on the three research subjects there are differences in parenting.
Ariel, a child from a broken home with aspects of divorce, was raised by his own mother.
Reza, a broken home with aspects of divorce, was raised in a boarding school.
Meanwhile.
Vano has a broken home with parental aspects that have not been present for a long time.
raised by his grandmother.
However, apart from these differences in upbringing, researchers will also refer to the opinion of the division of parenting according to experts, such as the opinion of could not be separated from the role of the Ariel's observations conducted by researchers.
Ariel's mother paid attention and gave freedom to Ariel, but it was still within the scope of responsible freedom and Ariel's mother also gave full attention to Ariel by means of communication in sharing stories.
Because by sharing stories will show our concern for each other.
So it can be interpreted in this parenting style Ariel's parents use democratic parenting.
Elizabeth B Hurlock, as a developmental Parenting patterns for broken home psychologist who said that there are three children with aspects of divorce types of parenting, namely authoritarian parenting, democratic parenting, and Laissez Faire .
17 Reza, who is a victim of a broken home with aspects of divorce, initially lived with his mother.
However, because his Parenting patterns for broken home mother remarried, at the will of his children with aspects of divorce stepfather he was in a boarding house so Ariel was raised by her own mother.
After the death of his father.
Ariel lives alone with his mother who is now the backbone of the family.
In the previous explanation Ariel has a problem with his that his character could be improved.
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Reza is under the care of not present in full for a long time.
the Mambaul Ulum Islamic Boarding Vano's parenting pattern is with his School.
Bulu Village.
Sugihwaras District, grandmother, because his father works far Bojonegoro Regency, which is being cared away and his mother is only home in the late for by K.
Achmad Machsun and Mrs.
Family conditions that have Nyai Endang Sri Samsuni.
In addition to the different structures, where children live with book boarding school, another advantage of their grandmothers and receive care by their this boarding school is that it is a grandmothers result in different patterns of relationships and problems.
After observing marginalized communities, such as people the research subjects, there is a tendency for with mental disorders (ODGJ) due to grandmother's parenting found in this study to be permissive parenting.
Grandma only children, punk children, and children facing judged that staying at home was better than the law (ABH).
This Islamic boarding playing outside by being given a mobile school has also collaborated with the phone to play.
The limited knowledge of Ministry of Religion in the implementation technology owned by Vano's grandmother of the Dikterapan (Integrated Education for can result in uncontrolled playing and Children of Hop.
program, since then the learning time.
The following are the negative Bojonegoro Regency Government has also impacts of playing online games, including:
collaborated to deal with children who violate the City Spatial Planning article.
this Islamic boarding school Reza was educated to improve his character for the Mrs.
Nyai Endang said that in educating Reza, it was adjusted to the schedule in the cottage and the rules of the In this case, freedom is given during Making excessive addiction and forgetting in everything, in playing online games a gamer can become addicted because he is required to play continuously so as not to be left behind.
When gamers are addicted to online games, it will take up gamers' time.
recess and an approach is also taken to give Lowering body fitness, when playing advice and guidance to Reza.
So it can be online games automatically a gamer does not interpreted that the parenting provided is a move his body so that there will be a lack of democratic parenting style.
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learning process of an addicted gamer will Parents attention concentration in learning will be disturbed.
Decreased motivation to learn, a gamer will be lazy to study or do The three research subjects received parental attention differently.
Ariel, the victim of a broken home from the aspect of divorce, gets the full attention of her So the problem that happened to Damage the eyes and nerves, playing him was not too big.
Secondly.
Reza, a games excessively will cause the lens of the victim of a broken home with a divorce, eye to weaken.
before he went to a boarding school at Lack of socialization, a gamer who is too busy in the game will forget about the surrounding environment, so there will be a lack of socialization with the surrounding home he experienced a lack of love from his Because his mother worked and did not get the love of his father.
This resulted in problems that arise in Reza, both in terms of social and intellectual.
So that his stepfather took the initiative to rehabilitate This is relevant to what Vano Reza at the Mambaul Ulum Islamic experienced at school, such as point number Boarding 2 that during the teaching and learning character for the better.
Third Vano.
Vano process Vano often daydreams and finds it still get his father's love but not directly.
Her difficult to concentrate while studying.
mother was not fully at home, which addition, pon number 4 related to Vano's required her grandmother to take care of her low learning motivation which made it at home.
This affection and attention that difficult for him to be able to read so that he he does not fully get results in him being experienced reading delays compared to his less disciplined in dividing his time, which Supporting and inhibiting factors in parenting of Broken Home children in intellectual abilities.
Dander District.
Bojonegoro Regency.
After conducting interviews and observations, the School Reza's Understanding of Parents Religion outline of the three research subjects can be In the first research subject.
Ariel described as follows.
Supporting factors and received full support from her mother for the importance of understanding religion.
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Furthermore.
Reza, the new family fosters a new parenting style for Reza.
The religious understanding that his stepfather got, requires that the dai is now in a boarding school to be rehabilitated and receive intensive learning to improve his character for the better.
The subject of the last research on Vano.
Vano's grandmother taught Vano to be diligent in worshiping by inviting him to do maghrib and evening prayers at the mosque near his house.
Habituation like this will also affect the development of Vano's character.
Family Socio-Economic Level In an interview with Mrs.
Nyai Endang, the caretaker of the Mambaul Ulum Islamic Boarding School, she said that economic factors influence the child's He compares with Reza's friend who has a background of people who are able, while Reza has a background of people who can't.
Reza's upbringing at home was not taken care of because his mother left him working at a coffee shop.
For those who are economically capable, of course they also get enough time and attention.
However, when they are at the cottage, they are all generalized, both must obey the rules of the cottage and there is no distinction.
Education of Parents or Foster Guardians Parental important role in the development of children's learning.
As parents, they provide guidance and help their children study at home to do assignments from school so that their children get good achievements in Parents are expected to be able to help improve their children's achievements, parents can guide and direct their children to study at home, because parents are the first and foremost educators for the success of their children.
Students always study at home in order to get good performance in 18 As experienced by Vano, after being met during an interview.
Vano's grandmother had an objection when the school required online learning.
Granny Vano had difficulty in the learning method that should be applied.
Mrs.
Ariel also experienced the same thing when learning from home.
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There are two within themselves.
Therefore, the learning parenting patterns for broken home children process will be successful when students in Dander District.
Bojonegoro Regency, have motivation in learning, if children do namely democratic parenting and permissive not get motivation to learn from the environment where they live or from parenting patterns, then teachers need to foster student learning motivation.
19 Like Reza, because his stepfather considered the existing environment to be less conducive to improving Reza's character, his stepfather took the initiative to house him at the Mambaul Ulum Islamic Boarding School.
After being in a dive lodge for the past year, there has been a change in Reza, especially in his character.
Therefore, environmental factors are very important in parenting.
Conclusion Based discussion, it can be concluded that parenting patterns for broken home children in Dander District.
Bojonegoro Regency.
the intellectual aspect there is a decrease in cognitive abilities, reading delays, and often not concentration which results in a lack of understanding of the material during the learning process.
While the psychological characteristics that occur in children are having a bad temper, emotional instability.
This is due to several factors References